As a teenager it can be difficult for you to speak up about your concerns and problems to your parents. You will probably talk to your friends more than to your parents, but you need their support. Friends can be a great support system for you to talk about many topics. You may be uncomfortable talking to adults about your feelings and other topics that aren't directly related to your family. These are some helpful tips to help you talk to your parents.
Be careful not to text or check your phone when you're talking with your parents
Texting sensitive information is not a good idea, no matter if you are speaking to your parents face-to-face or texting them. If your parents ask for you to borrow their smartphone, it is best to not look at the phone. You shouldn't lend your parents their phone. Your parents are often clueless about technology.
Don't say "I'm sorry" outloud
Try to think before speaking if you are guilty of something. As it may sound hollow and unsincere to say something out loud, you want to ensure you have considered the opinions of others. You can imagine what your mom would think if she were you, and then take full responsibility.
Ask for their point.
When talking to your parents about difficult topics, it's important to remember that they're the ones who are most likely to respond best to well-considered proposals. Talking to your parents about difficult topics can be too emotional. It is important that you are not emotionally charged and give your point of views. You should always express your feelings and then offer a solution. If possible, write down your ideas before talking to your parents. Next, go through the notes carefully and think about them before you begin to talk to your parents.
Please share information about your life
If your parents are recovering alcoholics, it may be beneficial to share details about your personal life with them. This will enable them to understand the details of your life, and help you make informed decisions. Do not feel pressured to share everything. Just share what feels safe to you and what you've done. This will help your parents to understand what their limits are. They may not be available to support your plans, or even be present for you if your parents are an alcoholic.
Ask for their support
You have many options to ask your parents for their support in addressing a difficult topic. First, make sure you find the time to talk to them. If you can, try to find a quiet spot with no distractions. Once you've set up a time to chat, don't forget to call them to let them know that they will be there. Bring some questions and topics to share during the time.
FAQ
Which parenting style works best?
Parents must make sure their children are happy, healthy, and well adjusted.
This is possible by instilling values early on. This means teaching them how respect authority, treat others and take responsibility for their actions.
So they can become responsible adults, who know their dreams and are capable of achieving them.
This means that even if your child is having trouble with friends or school, they will be better equipped than if you didn't teach them these things early.
Which parenting style should you be most proud of in America?
The traditional family model is not as popular today as it was 50 years ago because families are changing. The role of parents in raising children has become less important. They are more interested in spending their time doing other things than with their children. Helicopter parenting is a term that describes this type of parenting. It's where parents hover around their children 24/7. They ensure that they supervise everything. They ensure they eat right, exercise, sleep at night, etc. This kind parenting creates stress for both the parents and the children. Parents feel guilty for not being there all the time, and kids feel they are missing out on their childhood experiences.
This type of parenting is not good for kids because it doesn't teach them how to take care themselves. They learn to depend on others for everything. Parents are not teaching independence; they are teaching dependence. Children learn to depend on adults for their success. They can blame themselves if they fail.
This makes children feel inadequate and worthless. They believe they are failures because they didn't live up to expectations. Because they didn't learn how to cope with failure, they lack self-confidence.
Another reason this parenting style isn't as popular is the decrease in two-parent households. Parents who work from home can find it difficult to be available for their children if both of them are working. Many parents find themselves raising their children alone.
Nowadays, parents want their kids to be happy and healthy. They don’t want to worry about whether their kids get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise. They want to live their own lives. They have hired tutors, nannies or other caregivers so they can focus on their own lives.
They don’t want to manage every aspect their child’s life. They don't want children to believe they are perfect and never make mistakes. They want them learn from their mistakes and to try again.
What's an example of positive parenting?
Positive parenting teaches children to be positive by setting high standards for themselves and expecting them all to follow them. Positive parenting involves loving and caring for them and supporting them in times of need.
Positive parenting teaches children that they should make decisions based upon what is best for them, and not on what is easiest or most convenient. This helps children develop into independent adults who know what they want and don't just do whatever others tell them.
Positive parenting is also about having fun together, and encouraging your children's happiness.
Children will trust their parents if they feel loved and cared for by them. They will be happier and healthier as a result.
Good parenting is essential.
Good parenting helps children develop into well-adjusted adults who are capable of coping with life's challenges. It teaches children how to make good decisions and take control of their lives.
Good parents help their children learn self-control, manage emotions and cope with stress. They teach their children how to set and achieve goals.
They encourage their children's curiosity and exploration of different talents. They ensure that they have the opportunity and resources to succeed.
They show respect for others by treating everyone equally. They do not discriminate against any person based on their race, religion or gender.
They create a safe environment for all members of the family.
Statistics
- Students from authoritative families were likelier to say that their parents–not their peers–would influence their decisions (Bednar and Fisher 2003). (parentingscience.com)
- Most adults will become parents at some point in their lives (i.e., around 89.6% of the adult population worldwide; Ranjan, 2015). (positivepsychology.com)
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How To
How do I discipline my child?
There are many ways of disciplining a child but remember that the goal is to get them to understand why they did something wrong so that they don't repeat it.
Here are some suggestions:
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Explain to your child the reasons you think they did not do right.
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Give them a time limit. Give them a time limit, such as "I'm going with you for 5 minutes to clean my room." If you don't finish by the timer, you'll be required to stay after school.
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Praise good behavior.
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Don't punish bad behavior.
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Your child should be aware of the consequences for misbehaving.
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Reward instead of punishment. Rewards include praise, stickers, toys, etc.
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For your child, set clear rules.
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Be consistent.
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Avoid screaming or shouting.
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You must follow through with punishments.
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Talk calmly with your child and be firm.
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Take control of your emotions
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Try not to shout or scream.
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Show love and affection.
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Do not hit your child.
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Take time to explain yourself.
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Remember that children are only little once!
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Promises must be kept.
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Listen to the feelings of your child.
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Understand that children are not stupid.
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Have patience.
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Do not let your child see that you are angry.
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Keep calm.
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Encourage your child’s expressiveness.